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Are You Trying to Eat Soup with a Fork?

Why your effort in the relationship never seems to be enough?

The AM/FM Radio Effect

Love is a transmission. If you broadcast on the AM frequency (Physical Touch) and the other person only tunes into FM (Quality Time), all they hear is static.

The unconscious mind interprets this “silence” as rejection, even though you’re screaming love.

The mistake is loving how you want to be loved

You fill the house with gifts (because that’s your language), but the person just wanted 20 minutes of conversation without phones (their language).

Result: You end up exhausted from trying so hard. They end up empty from not receiving.

The Emotional Google Translate

This book isn’t about romance—it’s a human instruction manual. Gary Chapman mapped the 5 universal dialects.

  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Quality Time
  3. Gifts
  4. Acts of Service
  5. Physical Touch

Loving is learning a second language without leaving home

Stop waiting for them to guess. Start translating. Save this post for the next argument (because there will be one).

The Book

  1. Cover of The 5 Love Languages book

    The 5 Love Languages

    Gary Chapman

    The glaring differences in how men and women think and act have been known for a long time. What continues to be a dilemma is how to make a relationship work between two people who sometimes seem to come from different planets. Understanding these differences is part of the solution, and that's where Gary Chapman will help you. With decades of experience counseling couples, he noticed that each of us adopts a language through which we give and receive love. When a couple doesn't correctly understand each other's predominant language, communication is affected, preventing them from feeling loved, accepted, and valued.

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